Humorless: melancholy – hopeless – self-pitying

Blind: oblivious to own motivations and emotions - denies difficulties - ignores problems - reacts without thinking - destructively questions after the fact ("Why do I always…" "Why can’t I ever…)

Self-absorbed: egotistical - narcissistic - unwilling to admit faults - possesses a sense of entitlement ("people owe me special consideration") - seeks attention - stubborn - controlling

Extremist: radical - reactive - emotionally impulsive or over-controlled - either minimizes or maximizes

Isolator: plays the hermit – tends to run away from both helpful and hurtful people and situations – self-sabotages

Dependent: ties to needy or caregiving individuals - enmeshed – no balance in relationships – rigid roles – continues to choose unhealthy types of individuals and groups in attachments, affiliations and community relationships - desperate in relationships

Patterned Behavior: predictable – worries – obsesses - resorts to the same solutions even when those have been proven to be inadequate - shuns new things

Passive: feels and acts as having no power – fatalistic – life dictates what can or cannot be done – life characterized by procrastination

Morally Immature: words and actions are seriously contradictory (incongruent) – addicted – dogmatic –rationalizes behaviors

Discontent/Resigned: dissatisfied - covetous - mired in the past – believes what has happened determines what will happen - pessimistic - anxious.                                   

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