Taming Your Temper: Learning To Turn Down The
Heat
August 21 2008
You're late for work, your toddler spilled jam on your suit and now your car
won't start. How do you deal with the rising anger? Whether you brush it off and
move on, or lash out in frustration, how you deal with anger affects not only
yourself, but also your spouse, your children and even your career.
As hard as we may try to stay calm, situations always arise that push our
buttons. While feeling anger isn't a bad thing, it is important to
constructively express that anger. It may seem surprising, but being overly
passive and keeping your anger pent up can be just as unhealthy as having a
violent outburst. Both reactions can cause headaches, insomnia, high blood
pressure and digestive problems. A recent study at the Duke University Medical
Center even found a link between anger and heart disease -- yet another reason
to tame your temper.
If your health isn't enough of a motivation to control your anger, outbursts in
the office or at home can be detrimental to your career and personal life.
Blowing up at a co-worker can negatively affect morale, productivity and
teamwork in the workplace. In the household, intense or chronic anger can have a
devastating effect on children and your marriage.
So how do you know if you need to express your anger more constructively? Use
these questions to assess your response to anger:
-- Do you try to intimidate others with your anger?
-- Does your expression of anger ever frighten or overwhelm yourself or others?
-- Do you use threatening language or gestures?
-- Do you get angry enough to physically harm someone or something?
-- Do you turn to alcohol or drugs to ease your anger?
-- Do you experience muscle tension or an elevated heartbeat when you get angry?
-- Do you try to hide or suppress your angry feelings from others?
If your answer is yes to even just two of these questions, you should seek
professional guidance to help you learn how to better express your anger. A
Marriage and Family Therapist can help you become more aware of what triggers
your feelings of anger so you can learn to keep that anger under control.
For more information about Marriage and Family Therapists, or to locate a
therapist in your area, please visit http://www.TherapistFinder.com.
About CAMFT
The California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, with 27 chapters
throughout the state, is an independent professional organization, representing
the interests of licensed marriage and family therapists. CAMFT provides
TherapistFinder.com as a resource to the public looking for marriage and family
therapists located in California.
California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
http://www.camft.org
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